Mystical Mediums Blog

I often get asked when doing readings what their partners mean when they say ” I do love you but I am not in love with you”. Being on the recieving end of these words can cause confusion and devastation. However, in my opinion they are only code words for ” I am not sure that I am ready to have a relationship with you at this moment in time.”

As a relationship matures it will move through different stages and the feelings of excitement of the past when the relationship began, often get confused with how they are feeling now. In essence the feelings of love, in all probability are deepening rather than fading as the relationship moves into a different phase.

Major life changes which may provoke high levels of stress in a person may make them confused about how they feel.

A very effective way to deal with this situation is to step back out of their space, while they work their feelings out. It could be that their real problem was that they are unhappy at work, but are confusing that with the relationship. In the cliche ” absence makes the heart grow fonder”, by having a short time apart from each other and not communicating for say two days or a week can be really healthy on the relationship and the feelings of true love can be renewed.

It will give the both of you time for reflection and gives time out to see how you or they feel about one another. If the “absence makes the heart forget” then at least you both can move forwards from each other and have a mutual respect for each other before it leads to any kind of resentment. You can then remember the positive memories you both shared. However, you may have just become incompatible in some key areas. It may then be worth going to Relate and getting counselling on the relationship together.

Written by Paul MJ Perris

On Friday and Saturday the moon is in the dynamic sign of Aries. This is likely to be a very dynamic time and a time of rapidly achieving short term goals. The lunar energy of this phase is also supported by a conjunction of Venus in Aries, which could spark a very romantic time too. If you are not in an existing relationship, who knows, someone new may cross your path! The only challenges around this time are to try and keep a cool head on if you can as others around you may get short tempered which could lead to arguments.

On Sunday and Monday the moon is placed in Taurus. It is also Squared to Mercury, Mars and Jupiter in Aquarius. This could indicate unpredictable occurrences that may create insecurity and instability. A Very effective way of handling this phase will be just to get out into nature and perhaps take yourself out for a walk. This may get you out of feeling like you are in a rut and will be very relaxing. However, financially everything augurs well for this cycle.

On Tuesday and Wednesday, the moon is in Gemini squared to The Sun in Pisces. This could be a time of making dreams a reality and communicating what you want out of your life to those that matter. There could be a lot going on at once over this period. It will be a good time for socialising, travel and any type of study.

On Thursday and Friday the Moon shifts into Cancer opposition to Pluto in Capricorn. There could be obstacles on the work front and it may feel like you are swimming up a stream. Time spent with family members will be very healing at this time as well as any reflective conversations of past happy memories.

Over the weekend the moon is in Leo, so it should be party time! It agurs well for any entertainment activities, love and romance. It should be quite an extroverted time with positve expression of the emotions favoured. The Moon is also in opposition to Jupiter so any travel activities or expanding of horizons are highlighted.

Paul MJ Perris

On Sunday 8th February , the moon is in Leo which may have a very creative energy for the day. It may be that you decide to get out those paint brushes and start painting something from either a picture to doing some re decoration in the home , cooking a new dish that you have never tried before, writing a poem or even just playing a musical instrument. Whatever you may decide to do in a creative sense today will allow your mind to drift towards visualising a new future that you may want to create for yourself.

On Monday 9th February there is a Full Moon in Leo at 14.50 GMT. There could be conflict in the air around this time with others around you or those in authority being self centred and un cooperative. This may lead to frustration or arguments. However, the best probable way to counteract this energy would be to step back from any stressful situation and either do something fun or try not to take the day too seriously.

On Tuesday 10th and Wednesday 11th February , the Moon is placed in Virgo. This may be a very hard working time and may even be a demanding time where others around you may expect perfection in everything that you do. It will be an ideal time to re evaluate your objectives and carrying out any long and short term planning. Any activities where you are organising yourself in a different way are likely to be highly favoured at this time.

On Thursday 12th and Friday 13th The Moon is in Libra. This should be a good social time and getting out and meeting new people. If any important decisions are demanded of you during this phase , you may actually decide to step back and think about things until another day as either way may seem uncertain. It is also possible that other people may knock you off balance a bit around this cycle, so it may be important to just stay focused on your goals.

On Saturday 14th the Moon is in Scorpio which should agur very well for a very passionate Valentines day! It is likely to be a time where very deep feelings can be expressed easily so love and romance is highlighted. If you are not in a relationship, it could be that someone that you did not expect could express their feeling for you. If you are in an existing relationship, your feelings for each other should move to a deeper level.

PAUL MJ PERRIS

On Tuesday , the moon is in Aquarius and it is possible that the energy felt may be of unpredictable changes. Life may be moving at a very fast pace on this day, and it may be challenging to keep on top of everything. Whatever happens there should be a friendly atmosphere in the air, so if any obstacles are faced, there is likely to be others around whom are helpful and supportive.

On Wednesday, Thursday and most of Friday the moon will be in Pisces. It may be a time where there may feel like there is a lack of direction which may cause some dissatisfaction. It may be a time of deep thinking and re evaluating and wishing to take more control over your own life. It should be a positive time for love and relationships , where deep feelings can be easily expressed. The lunar energy may make you feel more sensitive than normal so listening to music, watching a film or taking a walk into nature would have a very positive effect on counter balencing this energy.

Over the weekend, the Moon shifts into Dynamic Aries. It could be a very decisive time where new decisions are made and new action plans put into place. Short term goals may also be changed or re assessed. There may be a feeling in the air of others putting themselves first, which may cause frustration or conflict. If this does occur, you may decide just to do your own thing as well.

On Monday , life should be feeling much more stable and secure. I would forecast this to be a positive week of progress. There is likely to be a determination to achieve goals and not deviating from that objective. The moon is placed in Taurus on Monday and there may be an indication of financially things beginning to improve. If you feel like you become a bit stuck in a rut though, any form of relaxation techniques should help to counteract this, or just simply a slight change to routine.

Paul MJ Perris

Find a quiet place to sit and relax. If you have any soft music, you can also put that on in the background. Close your eyes and take 5 deep breaths. Start on the Base Chakra and work your way up to the Crown Chakra and visualise yourself breathing in and out the colour related to each Chakra.

THE BASE CHAKRA ( BROWN)

Visualise your energy making contact with everything that is precious to you within your physical environment. Your Home, Your partner, Your pets, friends or close family members, your work and your favorite possessions. Be re charged by everything that you are holding in your mind and feel the gratitude for everything that you have got.

THE SACRAL CHAKRA ( ORANGE)

Visualise circuits of energy flowing from your second chakra into the images of everything that you desire to create. Unplug your energy circuits from any negative relationships in your life and seal your second chakra so that no more energy is lost. Focus your attention on the loving relationships in your life and allow love to fill your sacral chakra.

THE SOLAR PLEXUS CHAKRA ( YELLOW)

Reflect on what you need to do physically , emotionally and spiritually. What may you need to let go of and what do you need to keep in your life. How will letting go or hanging on effect your healing. Make promises to your spirit. Your spirit needs hope, inspiration, prayer and the energy of forgiveness. Pray to retrieve your spirit from the past and leave behind you places and memories that you should have left behind long ago. Decide now to live in the present at all times.

THE HEART CHAKRA ( GREEN)

Pray for divine love and the ability to open your heart to others, and for the compassion to treat yourself with gentleness. Try to take yourself into your own heart.What can you do today that would be enjoyable for yourself. Allow a tranquil feeling of calm penetrate your spirit and physical body. There is always a pathway to yourself. Perhaps it is now time to start doing something for yourself that you have wanted to do for a very long time but postponed. Maybe now it is time to start reading poetry that brings strength and inspiration, take up painting, drawing or sculpting, play a musical instrument or dancing. Or even take a trip somewhere that you have never got around to visiting. Loving yourself and other people will give you the energy that is healing. Take the time now to celebrate with those people you love that you are in their life and they are in yours. Visualise sharing that love with others as well.

THE THROAT CHAKRA ( BLUE)

Perhaps confess to yourself the troubles that you have caused yourself or others, or the troubles that others have caused you. By admitting to such actions , you empty yourself of the toxins generated by the shadow side of yourself. Strive to make your energy and will clean. Whatever comes into your mind, speak it out and release it.  This Chakra is about any areas of lack of communication in your life.

THE THIRD EYE CHAKRA ( INDIGO)

This chakra represents the abitity to see clearly. We need to believe that our lives are meaningful as we strive to find out what our overall contribution is to the universe. The shadow side to this chakra is self doubt and comparing ourself to others. When we lose sight of our own self worth, we become unbalanced and regard others with hostility, envy and negative judgements. These thoughts can threaten our health and we may get a feeling that we are going nowhere. Try to clear your mind of all these thoughts.

THE CROWN CHAKRA ( PURPLE) However, I find that actually visuallising a pure brilliant white is also very effective for activating this chakra)

This is the centre that connects you to the divine, higher power within. I find that out of all the Chakras , this takes the least ammount of energy to activate as all types of prayer can activate this Chakra. Also think of the new relationship you would now like to have with this higher power, and feel a new sense of faith and trust as things start to unfold in a new and more positive way.

Paul MJ Perris

When you begin work on healing, I believe that you must also begin by working to heal your spirit. A healthy spirit is essencial to a healthy body. Understanding your spirit is the key to helping you control your body and what is within. One way to do this is to practice a daily meditation of opening the chakras and visualise them rotating and working. It is also helpful to recognise that a divine force is intrinsic to your every thought and action and that an inner force guides you. Getting to know that higher power within allows you to understand how you co create whatever you experience in your life, including your health.

In my oppinion, the human spirit requires daily nurturing through spiritual practice such as prayer and meditation. These practices nourish the energy system and help to unite your mind, body and spirit. I think that a healthy lifestyle is important in self healing. A healthy lifestyle includes getting enough exercise and the proper nutrition, avoiding toxic substances and maintaining good living habits. A healthy lifestyle can help you learn more about what your body needs for maximum physical performance and a spiritual practice can further your understanding of the path that you are meant to walk.

When an illness has become part of your spiritual journey, your spirit has to begin to make the changes that the illness was designed for you to improve. Medical intervention, complimentary healing, changes in nutrition, and overall lifestyle changes are all very important and to some extent should all be used. However, I dont feel that it should be forgotten that an illness is also a spiritual challenge to be overcome, and your spiritual practice of prayer and meditation can also help to give you the insight that you need.

Your practice can be a means of enduring the illness and healing it through increasing the stregnth and the wisdom of your spirit. I think that it is important to re direct your faith from the physical realm to the spiritual realm. Healing requires you to make changes to both your physical and spiritual ways of life. They are both parellel roads leading to the same goal, and each road needs to be driven along every day.

Self healing can be one of the most extreme challenges, and it often feels that we enter into it completely alone. Others can offer help and support, but only the ill person can acomplish the hardest and deepest work. Being diagnosed with an illness can quite understandably produce massive confusion. Like waking up in a strange country to which you don’t remember travelling , you may feel that you dont know what to do or whom to turn to for help. A closed mind is not an asset. I would say that it is best to be open to every option that can help you. If you decide to go holistic as well, you need to do so after only doing serious research on the full options available. In many cases the best course of action is to combine the best of the medical and the holistic worlds.

The most important thing that you can do for yourself in a crisis situation is to learn how to manage your time. I think that you have to put yourself first and learn when to say no. Ask yourself who are the most important people in your life and are you investing your time and energy in the things that matter most to you for both your healing and living a healthy life. If not, you may need to ask yourself what you are willing to do about it to bring about meaningful change.

Healing is a present time challenge. However, a new step or change does not have to be big to be effective. You could start by taking a walk every day, or take a yoga class ect. Don’t fall prey to the ” I’ll start tommorrow” way of thinking. There is only the now in the healing process. Just as no one can learn to run a marathon in one day, living a healthy life requires you to practice regularly whatever new disciplines that you adopt. I would reccommend to keep your focus in a positive direction and stay committed to that practice.

Written by Paul MJ Perris

The tarot reveals imagery and indicates the way that life could travel. It can show a set of choices but we do have free will to determine or change the outcome. The word Tarot comes from a latin word TA RO meaning a wheel. The cards symbolise the circle of life from birth to death.

TAROT DECKS

Tarot packs consist of 78 cards:

22 Major Arcana

56 Minor arcana of which there are 4 different suits.

SUGGESTED DECKS

The Orginal Ryder Waite Deck

The Universal Ryder waite ( I find it a lovely deck)

The Hanson Roberts Tarot ( Fairy tale imagery)

The Cosmic Tarot Deck ( Beautiful illistrations)

The Connolly Tarot Deck

The Morgan Greer Tarot Deck

The Alistair Crowley Tarot Deck

CHOOSING A PACK

I would reccommend starting with a Rider Waite deck as most modern decks are also based on it and have similar imagary. I started with this pack and then was able to work with many other packs without any problems at all. Lots of New age shops will have a selection of opened packs for you to look at or have a folder of sample cards that you can look through. You can then look for the cards that you are personnally drawn to with imagary which inspires you. Once you have chosen your cards I would reccommend wrapping them in silk or putting them in some kind of wooden box.

I find that there is alot of conflicting advice on shuffling, cuttling and handling. I believe that there is not really any right or wrong procedure. I would say just develop your own way or follow the guide in the handbook supplied with the tarot deck that you choose. However, I do think that it is important to follow the same procedure every time.

You may then like to go on a course which can teach you the tarot, and allow you the chance to practice your skills with others of like mind. Some people also like to practice with family members , friends or relatives as well. I found that the more readings that I did the better I got at it.

READING PROFFESSIONALLY

If you decide to extend your tarot reading to the public after you have done a course and your tutor has certified that you are ready , the main motive in my view should be the desire to be of serive to humanity and mankind. I feel that it is also very important that you must work in a completely confidential and proffessional way. People may come to you for a reading because they are needing assistance or they are looking for future direction or guidance.

Overall destiny can be difficult to forecast as we all have free will. I don’t believe that there is really a master plan. You may see new opportunities ahead for your client but it will be up to them if they wish to take them or not. When I do tarot readings I do my best to help the client evaluate their own life so that they can realise their best potential. I would also reccommend that you would keep a list of helpline numbers to hand as well, incase a client needs specialist qualified advice in a field that you are not trained for.

SITTINGS

I would say that it is best to work from a room in a new age shop or an alternative health centre. The reading room should be quiet, clean and comfortable so that your client can relax.

I always ask if they have had a reading before and explain how i work and what I do. I like to tell the client not not to tell me anything initially so I can give an unbiased assessement in the reading. After the initial reading , i then may ask the client which areas that they would like me to take a closer look at and if they have any specific questions. I feel that it is the Tarot readers responsibility to give a positive, non judgemental and constructive reading as the reader is responsible for what they say. If for example, the client asks: “ What does the tarot indicate about me joining this tennis club” , if it was a negative card and the reader did not have good feelings about this particular club for the client, then there must be an alternative opportunity of say a different club that they could join instead that may be better for them.

WHEN CAN I COME BACK?

I don’t think it is a good idea to encourage anyone to get dependant on a reader. However, I would say, that time for another reading may be when there is a diffferent set of circummstances and different decisons need to be made.

Paul Mj Perris

The Moon is in Scorpio on Monday 19th and most of Tuesday 20th. As a general overview trend there may be a feeling of deep intense emotions, that may need to be put to one side in order to concentrate on daily life. If any feelings of fear or doubt appear, it may just be over magnified worry. However, things of a financial nature may start to improve during this phase which may take ones mind off any emotional insecurities.

From around 6pm on Tuesday 20th the moon shifts into Saggitarius, where it will stay for Wednesday and Thursday. There may be a feeling of restlessness and a need to break away from existing routines. Even if the routine may not be able to be changed entirely, there may be a desire to do something differently. For example travelling a different way to work ect. It may be a time where freedom is desired, or space away from an intense situation so having to do anything that is too restrictive is unlikely to agur well during this phase.

On Friday 23rd and Saturday 24th the Moon will be in Capricorn. It may be quite a serious and hard working couple of days, but a time where one may be able to get lots of tasks achieved. It may also be a time of re orientating goals and thinking about long term planning for the future.

Around 7pm on Sunday 25th the Moon enters Aquarius. On Monday 26th January it is a New Moon in this sign, the Sun will also have entered into Aquarius and also there a solar eclipse which will increase the New Moons Energy. It may be a very busy time where things are changing very quickly. It may signify a need for freedom and detachment when situations going on may seem somewhat unpredictable. It may also be a time of CHANGE which will bring about new beginnings. It may be a time of meeting new friendships and also thinking of new fresh ways of approaching situations. Whatever happens during this phase, it should be positive for the long term future.

Paul MJ Perris

With the Moon in Virgo on Wednesday and Thursday, it is possible that you may find others around you being over critical, and with Venus  in Pisces as well at the moment you may find yourself feeling over sensitive. You may just need a bit of time out and some space alone doing a hobby or an activity that you enjoy during this phase. It may also be a positive time for looking within and thinking about what direction you would like to move your life in over the next twelve months. You may also find yourself trying to organise things or even tidying up cupboards ect that may be in need of attention, to prepare the way forwards for changes ahead.

On Friday 16th, the moon shifts into  Libra and this should be a much more generally decisive and Harmonious time. Social activity may take the forefont of the agenda and the trends also augur well for love and romance as we enter into Saturday. If you are not in a relationship at the moment, this could be a time that someone new enters your life. If you are in an existing relationship you may find that your relationship moves to a deeper level of understanding of each other and committment.

On Sunday and Monday, you may find your self thinking about your personal finances and even thinking of different ways to raise some more money. You may for example, decide to sell something that may have been in the loft or in the shed for a long time. It is also possible that you may be looking at ways of cutting unneccassary costs and deciding on mays to save money. Whatever you decide, it should be a lucky phase where you should see yourself building positive foundations for the future.

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PAUL MJ PERRIS

On Sunday, with the Moon in Pisces it is possible that you may be feeling very emotionally sensitive. You may find yourself very aware of the energies of those around you without realising it, and you may be feeling very in tune with the needs of others around you. However, by the early evening there could be some tension in the air, so it may be best to keep a low profile if others around you are being short fused or argumentative.

On Monday and Tuesday, I feel that generally we can expect to feel the positive and dynamic energy of the Moon in Aries. I would say that it would be a time of progress and determination to achieve our goals. Whatever is put into place around this time is likely to lead to a successful outcome. However, it is possible that you may feel the desire to work more independantly rather than with others.

On Wednesday there could be a feeling of love and romance in the air and you feeling closer to your loved one today. There may also be a feeling of accomplishment over what has been achieved recently and the feeling may be to just take stock or take the day gently.

On Thursday, there is a very powerful Full Moon in Taurus. The moon is Full around 06.19am GMT. This could force us to look at our actions and consider how they affect others around us. As the Moon is also in Opposition to Mercury in Scorpio and in conjuction with Mars in Scorpio it could also force us to face the truth about something. This aspect may encourage us to be honest with either ourselves that something is no longer working out and needs to change or encourge us to honestly and freely communicate our feelings.

If you are feeling like getting away from it all and having a weekend break or just simply traveling somewhere different on Friday or Saturday, I think that it will be an excellent time to do it. The Moon being in Gemini should also agur well for positive communication with relationships. However by Sunday, with all the action that has happened in the week, it is likely that the trend will be to just want a home day or a day just spent with family members.    

Paul MJ Perris 8/11/08